Anonymous asked:
what are your thoughts on oral sex before marriage? sorry for the vulgarity, but i thought it’d be better to cut to the chase. peace brotha
I’ll answer in three ways:
1) You’re most likely asking me this to find loopholes for oral sex with a clean conscience. When you ask how-far-is-too-far, the question itself reveals your heart. In that case, you’ve asked with a pre-existing motive hoping for an answer to fit the answer you already have. So check your motives at the door.
2) Any form of sexual/physical contact will make you feel closer to a person than you actually are. That’s why Christians use terms like “emotional bondage.” What they’re saying is, Sin makes you stupid. Lust, especially. It will anchor you to someone that has no right to your body nor the keys to your anything else. It’s why clueless women stay with jobless, smelly, lazy, abusive, nasty skank man-boys: because of the milkshake. I’m not lying, dude.
But I know this won’t convince you because quite honestly, oral sex feels good. You could also say, “At least we’re not having real sex, and it helps prevent me from wanting to do the real thing.” Besides the fact that this rationalization is shallow garbage and can be philosophically debunked in 0.2 seconds, it’s a little insulting to demean a human being by saying “At least we are” fill-in-the-blank. Being romantically involved with someone the way that God designed is NOT a matter of “at least” anything.
